May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Benefits of being a sexual abuse survivor…


I’ve been feeling disheartened lately. I’ve been practicing tantric yoni massage (no endorsement implied in the link, but the description seems about right, and it even mentions survivors), both on my … Continue reading

March 4, 2014 · 3 Comments

Better, stronger, faster than before.


First off, the specialist did not help me assess the damage from the assault. I was disappointed. However, she did have a very credible theory for what could be causing … Continue reading

May 10, 2013 · 7 Comments

I have an appointment!


I just found out I have an appointment with a woman obstetrician/gynecologist for May 10th. The doctor who set up the appointment for me thought that an obstetrician might be … Continue reading

April 5, 2013 · 6 Comments

How to get care for an vulva injured in childhood.


I am going to blow my own horn here. I did good. First, some background. I had sex for the first time with a new lover recently and my vulva … Continue reading

March 27, 2013 · 8 Comments

Bravery and Vulnerability


I’ve been reading Brene Brown’s recent book “Daring Greatly”. Most of the information is stuff I already know, but it’s good to review and there were some new bits. I … Continue reading

December 14, 2012 · 5 Comments

No Letter


My wife nailed it. She said “there isn’t going to be a letter, she didn’t get what she wanted.” According to my aunt, my mom has allegedly written a letter … Continue reading

September 1, 2011 · 4 Comments

Eureka – take that, vulvadynia!


Okay, I seem to have it figured out. The yoga is great, but I found something even better. Just becoming aware of how often I clench the muscles of my … Continue reading

April 24, 2011 · 4 Comments

Goddess bless yoga – self care for survivors with vaginal injury


Remember when I wrote that I’d read that vulvadynia was related to constriction of blood flow in the pelvis? That makes sense to me as a survivor and I’ve been … Continue reading

April 4, 2011 · 12 Comments

Vulvanomics


My vulva has been very sore the last several days. Over the years I’ve made several attempts to try and figure out what is wrong and fix it. As you … Continue reading

March 30, 2011 · 12 Comments

Free your vulva and the rest will follow.


In my meditation walk, I suddenly had a flash that my new motto was “Free your vulva and the rest will follow”.

February 26, 2011 · 6 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse survivors and sex and relationships


Here’s a post from a place where I don’t feel like I’ve gotten a handle on all of the post-traumatic symptoms, although I have come a long way. Stages of … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 15 Comments

What I learned about health care and sexual abuse survivors


I’d like to summarize what resources and history I’ve gathered (or created) that might be helpful to other survivors. I went from someone who had an 8 year gap in … Continue reading

January 8, 2011 · 4 Comments

A picture is worth…


I got my wife to take a picture of my vulva so I could see what I’m dealing with. A mirror is quite an awkward way to see one’s vulva … Continue reading

June 6, 2010 · Leave a comment

Figuring out the vulva


You know, it’s weird. In the aftermath of finding confirmation my vagina had been injured by the rapes, it’s actually empowered me to do something about the physical discomfort I’ve … Continue reading

June 3, 2010 · 6 Comments

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