May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

New Year – Releasing, Banishing and Blessing


Yesterday I did a ritual of blessing and letting go with one of my friends. We both practice the same religion but hadn’t done any ceremony together before. It was … Continue reading

December 31, 2013 · 2 Comments

Burning the Journals


I just got back from a camping trip with my wife. With her support, I burned several boxes of old journals, dating back from my childhood through the present. It … Continue reading

August 28, 2012 · 11 Comments

Grieving and staying present


Last night my wife held me while I cried for a long time. She curled around me, spoon-style, and held me solidly. I cried for the loss of her holding … Continue reading

September 30, 2011 · 9 Comments

Wedding Canopy


This picture is of someone’s real wedding canopy, it’s called Magical White Wedding by Ronsho, from Flickr. Our wedding was magical. It was a blessing of us and of our … Continue reading

September 9, 2010 · 2 Comments

Hand-delivered note from mom


I went out my front door and found the following note stuffed into my mailbox, hanging out. I recognized my mom’s handwriting at once. Here’s what it said: “July 9, … Continue reading

July 9, 2010 · 17 Comments

Soundtrack for a Survivors Sword Dancing Road Trip


I’m planning to rent a bus to drive up to my father’s grave with all the survivor friends I can muster. So far I have about six, including my Aunt.  … Continue reading

February 20, 2010 · 4 Comments

Getting to Core


I just reread my last two posts (and found and fixed some typos). Getting to certainty is important. When I read Tarot, I get myself calm and centred, and then … Continue reading

February 6, 2010 · 2 Comments

Exercise


I’m out of shape and overweight. I’ve lost over 20 pounds this year, mostly water I think, just by counting calories and exercising a little. I’ve got about 30 more … Continue reading

September 4, 2009 · 4 Comments

The day before the pap


Yesterday I saw my therapist and we talked about the pap test appointment tomorrow. What’s different about this appointment is: 1) the medical professional will know I’m a survivor. 2) … Continue reading

July 7, 2009 · 5 Comments

Magic and Meditation


I attended my friend’s celebration of life this week. It seems she was a remarkable woman. I also found out at this ceremony that she was probably a survivor as … Continue reading

June 16, 2009 · 5 Comments

Learning to be here


I met a woman at the Pagan conference who presented on a topic I happened to have a book on that I’d read but didn’t really understand. However, I knew … Continue reading

May 22, 2009 · 2 Comments

Email to a survivors organization in my home town


I just sent this. Hi there, I’m sorry for doing this in an email, but wasn’t certain I could explain all this well over the phone. I hope you can … Continue reading

May 4, 2009 · 5 Comments

Songs to dance on an abusers grave to


The concept of dancing on your abusers’ grave seems to have some resonance for survivors I’ve talked to. Not all of us are of Scottish heritage, or even interested in … Continue reading

April 13, 2009 · 8 Comments

Unhiding continued


So I didn’t go and make music this week. The sore throat won. However I did compile a bunch of lyrics and listen to a lot of songs that my … Continue reading

April 2, 2009 · 6 Comments

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