May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Herne’s blessings – vulva healing and sexuality


Surprize! Getting the inflammation in my vulva down to a dull roar did not instantly fix my sex life. Surprize! Struggling while trying to restore my vulva to the state … Continue reading

July 2, 2013 · 5 Comments

Unveiling


One of the things that is complicated about the polyamory community is our strange inability to talk about our love lives, since everyone we know that is poly is likely … Continue reading

October 1, 2012 · Leave a comment

Ethical Polyamory


Okay, I know this is a blog about later recovery from sexual abuse, and specifically waiting for my abuser to die so I can dance on his grave,  so what … Continue reading

November 27, 2011 · 7 Comments

Bailing vs Being Self Protective, a case study…


I’m fine. All is well. There’s no drama, generally or abuse wise, in my life. Except, I feel edgy and menstrual, which in itself is probably the cause of the … Continue reading

May 15, 2011 · 12 Comments

What I learned about faith and child sexual abuse


My adult spirituality developed in first or second year university. I was taking a philosophy of religion course, up to my neck in flashbacks and attending 12 step meetings of … Continue reading

January 30, 2011 · 4 Comments

Checking in


I haven’t been writing because I’ve got a lot going on but most of it is not particularly survivory, and is private in that it involves more than just me. … Continue reading

September 7, 2010 · 1 Comment

Visiting Family


Well, I went back east for a week to visit my moms siblings, my dad / abuser’s sister and a bunch of cousins and second cousins. It went very well, … Continue reading

July 29, 2010 · 1 Comment

Getting to Core


I just reread my last two posts (and found and fixed some typos). Getting to certainty is important. When I read Tarot, I get myself calm and centred, and then … Continue reading

February 6, 2010 · 2 Comments

unfinished business


(Trigger warning to my ritual abuse survivor allies – the following has description of positive pagan ceremony. ) Last night I got together with a friend of mine who shares … Continue reading

October 20, 2009 · 1 Comment

Exercise


I’m out of shape and overweight. I’ve lost over 20 pounds this year, mostly water I think, just by counting calories and exercising a little. I’ve got about 30 more … Continue reading

September 4, 2009 · 4 Comments

Feminist Vitamins


I’ve been telling my friends that coming back from my week at camp I feel like I’ve had a megadose of ultra-strength feminist Mother Earth vitamins. It’s not like I”m … Continue reading

August 29, 2009 · 4 Comments

The Bear


So I figure I’ve got grieving nailed down now. At the retreat this week I had several gut-shaking cries that were very cleansing. In a wierd way, I like grieving, … Continue reading

August 26, 2009 · 4 Comments

Filling a space


Last night I was reading in bed waiting for my wife to (finally) stop messing around on the computer and come to bed.  The book I was reading was on … Continue reading

July 24, 2009 · 3 Comments

The Man Who Planted Trees


This video/story has nothing to do with being a survivor, really, but much to do with hope and making a difference. It’s an allegorical tale of a man who spends … Continue reading

June 10, 2009 · 7 Comments

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