May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

What not to say to survivors of childhood sexual assault…


Do you have a friend, relative or lover who survived childhood sexual assault? Here’s 6 of the top 10 things not to say or do. 1) Breaking the kvetching order  … Continue reading

May 14, 2013 · 34 Comments

Rules of kvetching: applied to CSA survivors


My neck has been particularly seized up since I found out about the appointment with the gynecologist. Coincidence? Not likely. Since the assault that caused the tearing in my vagina … Continue reading

April 14, 2013 · 12 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse and forgiveness.


Here’s what I have learned in 25 years of healing,  about the topic of forgiveness as relates to survivors of childhood sexual assault by a family member or other sexual … Continue reading

January 21, 2011 · 32 Comments

Gifts of Kindness – A Teacher Gives Survivor a Piece of Her Past


I ran into one of my elementary school teachers at a conference I was presenting at, and we reconnected. In a follow up email I fairly matter of factly told … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 2 Comments

Hangover


Today was the first day alone I’ve had since I got back from my trip to see my relatives. My house is a mess, something that if I don’t deal … Continue reading

August 2, 2010 · 3 Comments

Visiting Family


Well, I went back east for a week to visit my moms siblings, my dad / abuser’s sister and a bunch of cousins and second cousins. It went very well, … Continue reading

July 29, 2010 · 1 Comment

Family Reunion


Don’t panic, it’s not MY family, it’s my wife’s. However, in the wake of my mother’s stalker-like note, I’m a bit twitchy about family. I normally like my wife’s family, … Continue reading

July 16, 2010 · 4 Comments

Hand-delivered note from mom


I went out my front door and found the following note stuffed into my mailbox, hanging out. I recognized my mom’s handwriting at once. Here’s what it said: “July 9, … Continue reading

July 9, 2010 · 17 Comments

My brother


I’ve been getting rolfing sessions lately. I’ve had two. It’s a bodywork method that is about restoring the connective tissue to balance, to release physical stuff held in the body. … Continue reading

April 3, 2010 · 4 Comments

Persevererence & Change2Mind video


I did do my practice yesterday, and got a little farther into exercising my voice. I seem to do it best when my wife is around. She came home from … Continue reading

October 28, 2009 · 3 Comments

Reply


My brother sent me quite a long reply this morning. He’s concerned that I haven’t ‘moved on’ after all this time and might still be in victim mode. He fully … Continue reading

August 5, 2009 · 6 Comments

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