May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Reframing mother’s day for incest survivors


I am going to celebrate Mother’s day tomorrow, in honour of my inner mother – the part of myself that nurtures and cares for all of me, and in honour … Continue reading

May 10, 2014 · 1 Comment

Another disappointing response from a relative


I had my aunt visit recently, the one who was also assaulted by my father. When I visited her a couple of years ago, she was very accepting of what … Continue reading

August 20, 2012 · 14 Comments

No Letter


My wife nailed it. She said “there isn’t going to be a letter, she didn’t get what she wanted.” According to my aunt, my mom has allegedly written a letter … Continue reading

September 1, 2011 · 4 Comments

‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse


I did end up writing a song,. about the hypocrisy of my mother expecting me to celebrate mother’s day, to give her her motherly due, when she was an accessory … Continue reading

August 6, 2011 · 7 Comments

Rape dreams and release


So I had ‘fending off rape dreams’ this morning, three consecutive ones. Not a big surprise, given how angry I’ve been lately. I tend to have ‘monsters/men are hurting me’ … Continue reading

August 6, 2011 · 2 Comments

PTSD Spaciness triggered waiting for letter from mom


So I’ve been extra spacey lately since the news about the impending letter from my mom replying to the one I sent her three years ago. It’s not like I … Continue reading

August 5, 2011 · 8 Comments

Visit with older brother – is the abuser dead yet?


My older brother called me on the weekend and we got together to watch his kid play in a sporting event. All in all it went well. He made an … Continue reading

August 1, 2011 · 1 Comment

Letter from mom on it’s way…


My mom’s sister (who I like) called me this weekend to let me know that my mom has finally written a reply to my letter sent almost three years ago with, … Continue reading

August 1, 2011 · 5 Comments

Eureka – take that, vulvadynia!


Okay, I seem to have it figured out. The yoga is great, but I found something even better. Just becoming aware of how often I clench the muscles of my … Continue reading

April 24, 2011 · 4 Comments

What I learned about night fears and sexual abuse survivors


In this post, I wanted to share what I’ve learned about night fears resulting from sexual assaults as a child and how to reduce them. I started out with night … Continue reading

January 2, 2011 · 20 Comments

Some Christmas gifts are not worth the price


As a  pagan, I don’t celebrate the birth of a god/saint/martyr from another religion as such. However I grew up celebrating Christmas, and all of my family does. It is … Continue reading

December 2, 2010 · 4 Comments

Honour is what you know to be true about yourself


It’s one in the morning, and I can’t sleep. I’m regretting the bar of chocolate I ate at the movie, whose caffeine might be what is keeping me awake. Mydog … Continue reading

September 18, 2010 · Leave a comment

Hangover


Today was the first day alone I’ve had since I got back from my trip to see my relatives. My house is a mess, something that if I don’t deal … Continue reading

August 2, 2010 · 3 Comments

Visiting Family


Well, I went back east for a week to visit my moms siblings, my dad / abuser’s sister and a bunch of cousins and second cousins. It went very well, … Continue reading

July 29, 2010 · 1 Comment

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