May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Love is not a prize


I am whole I am holy I was born from pain, raised in pain but I overcame I deserve all the love this world can offer I deserve a beautiful … Continue reading

September 2, 2015 · 3 Comments

Coming Out as a Survivor Part 2 – Friends and Lovers


In my previous post on this topic, I covered coming out to yourself, your therapist and your support or therapy community. The final two really difficult steps are coming out … Continue reading

February 10, 2014 · 1 Comment

What I’ve learned about coming out as an incest survivor (part 1)


I’m trying to write a chapter on coming out as an incest or child sexual assault survivor for the book. There are a lot of reasons to come out, and … Continue reading

January 7, 2014 · 7 Comments

Rules of kvetching: applied to CSA survivors


My neck has been particularly seized up since I found out about the appointment with the gynecologist. Coincidence? Not likely. Since the assault that caused the tearing in my vagina … Continue reading

April 14, 2013 · 12 Comments

Massage


I had an interesting experience having a massage today. I had a sore hip due to what my chiropractor says is a tight ‘IT band’. The massage therapist was doing various … Continue reading

July 9, 2011 · 4 Comments

Gifts of Kindness – A Teacher Gives Survivor a Piece of Her Past


I ran into one of my elementary school teachers at a conference I was presenting at, and we reconnected. In a follow up email I fairly matter of factly told … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 2 Comments

Getting to Core


I just reread my last two posts (and found and fixed some typos). Getting to certainty is important. When I read Tarot, I get myself calm and centred, and then … Continue reading

February 6, 2010 · 2 Comments

Happy Solstice


Today is the morning of the shortest day of the year.  A time when I usually clean up, simplify, tidy, pray. I’m grateful for my blessings this year: learning to … Continue reading

December 21, 2009 · 2 Comments

Feminist Vitamins


I’ve been telling my friends that coming back from my week at camp I feel like I’ve had a megadose of ultra-strength feminist Mother Earth vitamins. It’s not like I”m … Continue reading

August 29, 2009 · 4 Comments

The day before the pap


Yesterday I saw my therapist and we talked about the pap test appointment tomorrow. What’s different about this appointment is: 1) the medical professional will know I’m a survivor. 2) … Continue reading

July 7, 2009 · 5 Comments

Email to a survivors organization in my home town


I just sent this. Hi there, I’m sorry for doing this in an email, but wasn’t certain I could explain all this well over the phone. I hope you can … Continue reading

May 4, 2009 · 5 Comments

Obsessing about all the ways I’ve come out as an incest survivor, rather than sleeping, at 5:20 am


It’s 5:20 am and I can’t sleep. I’m not one of those poor people who actually gets up at 5 am for work or the insane ones that get up … Continue reading

April 22, 2009 · 7 Comments

Running out of steam


I seem to have run out of steam. My therapist is out of town and I accidentally missed last weeks appointment so I have no-one to debrief the yucky images … Continue reading

April 21, 2009 · 3 Comments

Runaway train


This morning I went for an hour long massage. I really like my massage therapist. I don’t see her that often, but she’s this nice, smart woman and we have … Continue reading

April 18, 2009 · 9 Comments

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