May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Love is not a prize


I am whole I am holy I was born from pain, raised in pain but I overcame I deserve all the love this world can offer I deserve a beautiful … Continue reading

September 2, 2015 · 3 Comments

What I’ve learned about coming out as an incest survivor (part 1)


I’m trying to write a chapter on coming out as an incest or child sexual assault survivor for the book. There are a lot of reasons to come out, and … Continue reading

January 7, 2014 · 7 Comments

What not to say to survivors of childhood sexual assault…


Do you have a friend, relative or lover who survived childhood sexual assault? Here’s 6 of the top 10 things not to say or do. 1) Breaking the kvetching order  … Continue reading

May 14, 2013 · 34 Comments

Rules of kvetching: applied to CSA survivors


My neck has been particularly seized up since I found out about the appointment with the gynecologist. Coincidence? Not likely. Since the assault that caused the tearing in my vagina … Continue reading

April 14, 2013 · 12 Comments

Grief, when you least expect it


I went out to ‘Trouble with the curve’ tonight with my wife. This story of a relationship between a father and daughter and it’s impact on her life really touched … Continue reading

October 4, 2012 · 6 Comments

Another disappointing response from a relative


I had my aunt visit recently, the one who was also assaulted by my father. When I visited her a couple of years ago, she was very accepting of what … Continue reading

August 20, 2012 · 14 Comments

Link between slut shaming, rape culture and child sexual abuse – education from a child


This is awesome, and I agree with everything she says. I sure hope this 13 year old child is not having sex, but, I think it’s very a good idea … Continue reading

July 10, 2012 · 2 Comments

I am happy.


I haven’t written much because not much on the sexual abuse theme has been up lately. I’m happy. I smile. I look at old pictures of myself with a wistful … Continue reading

April 11, 2012 · 4 Comments

Bountiful Abuse – why something stronger was needed to stop a religious child abuse ring


In Creston BC, which is in the western section of Canada, the country where I live, there is an organized paedophile ring masquerading as a religion. The fundamentalist church of … Continue reading

November 25, 2011 · 10 Comments

No Letter


My wife nailed it. She said “there isn’t going to be a letter, she didn’t get what she wanted.” According to my aunt, my mom has allegedly written a letter … Continue reading

September 1, 2011 · 4 Comments

‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse


I did end up writing a song,. about the hypocrisy of my mother expecting me to celebrate mother’s day, to give her her motherly due, when she was an accessory … Continue reading

August 6, 2011 · 7 Comments

Inheriting Evil


I was left a very thoughtful comment today in response to my post about why I’m not going to have children because my father is a sociopath. In Balbrouchan’s comment, … Continue reading

August 6, 2011 · 5 Comments

PTSD Spaciness triggered waiting for letter from mom


So I’ve been extra spacey lately since the news about the impending letter from my mom replying to the one I sent her three years ago. It’s not like I … Continue reading

August 5, 2011 · 8 Comments

Visit with older brother – is the abuser dead yet?


My older brother called me on the weekend and we got together to watch his kid play in a sporting event. All in all it went well. He made an … Continue reading

August 1, 2011 · 1 Comment

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