May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Holidays for Incest Survivors


Tonight is Christmas Eve. I am grateful to be spending it with my spouse and  my dog, in a warm, safe house full of light and love. I am happy. … Continue reading

December 24, 2013 · 9 Comments

Dating your parents (no not literally, thankfully!)


I subscribe to the theory that what we are attracted to in a mate is often a reflection of both the ways we’ve learned to accept love as children and … Continue reading

October 21, 2013 · 6 Comments

Herne’s blessings – vulva healing and sexuality


Surprize! Getting the inflammation in my vulva down to a dull roar did not instantly fix my sex life. Surprize! Struggling while trying to restore my vulva to the state … Continue reading

July 2, 2013 · 5 Comments

The painless vulva miracle


What a miracle this steroid cream is! I put it on and within an hour, I feel something I’ve never felt before. The pain, of burning and heat is replaced … Continue reading

June 16, 2013 · 6 Comments

Treatment and healing – chronic vulva inflammatory condition


So I had my follow up visit with the gyne specialist last Friday. Here’s the skinny. I do not have planus lichen (SO glad I went ahead with the biopsy!) … Continue reading

June 12, 2013 · 5 Comments

Autoimmune Disorders and PTSD


So this thing that makes my vulva and vagina feel like it has a bad sunburn (sometimes a healing itchy one, sometimes a fresh hot painful one) is an autoimmune … Continue reading

May 17, 2013 · 9 Comments

What not to say to survivors of childhood sexual assault…


Do you have a friend, relative or lover who survived childhood sexual assault? Here’s 6 of the top 10 things not to say or do. 1) Breaking the kvetching order  … Continue reading

May 14, 2013 · 34 Comments

Awesome Sexuality after surviving the worst


I remember despairing of ever having a decent sex life, of ever actually wanting sex, of finding people who wanted me and would be good to me, with whom I … Continue reading

May 13, 2013 · 4 Comments

Better, stronger, faster than before.


First off, the specialist did not help me assess the damage from the assault. I was disappointed. However, she did have a very credible theory for what could be causing … Continue reading

May 10, 2013 · 7 Comments

Courage, Perseverence, Gratitude


Here’s an excerpt from the typed page I’m giving to the Ob/Gyn specialist later this morning: “What I am here for: 1)      My goal is to improve my ability to … Continue reading

May 10, 2013 · 2 Comments

Care and feeding of the unconscious


If you believe in astrology, I can sum up my experience this morning with one phrase: I am a Sagittarius with a moon in Scorpio. This means that my inside … Continue reading

April 20, 2013 · Leave a comment

Rules of kvetching: applied to CSA survivors


My neck has been particularly seized up since I found out about the appointment with the gynecologist. Coincidence? Not likely. Since the assault that caused the tearing in my vagina … Continue reading

April 14, 2013 · 12 Comments

I have an appointment!


I just found out I have an appointment with a woman obstetrician/gynecologist for May 10th. The doctor who set up the appointment for me thought that an obstetrician might be … Continue reading

April 5, 2013 · 6 Comments

Information for childhood sexual assault survivors with vaginal/vulvar injuries


Note: This is probably triggering.It’s medical studies talking about vulva injuries in kids and how they heal. Read at your own risk. Here is a nice picture of a bunny … Continue reading

March 28, 2013 · 6 Comments

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