May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Bravery and Vulnerability


I’ve been reading Brene Brown’s recent book “Daring Greatly”. Most of the information is stuff I already know, but it’s good to review and there were some new bits. I … Continue reading

December 14, 2012 · 5 Comments

Grief, when you least expect it


I went out to ‘Trouble with the curve’ tonight with my wife. This story of a relationship between a father and daughter and it’s impact on her life really touched … Continue reading

October 4, 2012 · 6 Comments

Burning the Journals


I just got back from a camping trip with my wife. With her support, I burned several boxes of old journals, dating back from my childhood through the present. It … Continue reading

August 28, 2012 · 11 Comments

Staying present and moving at the same time


I have two books on the go right now. Writing, not reading. One is a novel I wrote about three years ago, which I’m trying to polish and complete. The … Continue reading

July 27, 2012 · 6 Comments

Pap Test Success for Incest Survivor


I am an amazon! I had a pap test and negotiated for what I needed. Yay me. I went to the drop in clinic today because I have a stomach … Continue reading

June 25, 2012 · 5 Comments

I am happy.


I haven’t written much because not much on the sexual abuse theme has been up lately. I’m happy. I smile. I look at old pictures of myself with a wistful … Continue reading

April 11, 2012 · 4 Comments

Bountiful Abuse – why something stronger was needed to stop a religious child abuse ring


In Creston BC, which is in the western section of Canada, the country where I live, there is an organized paedophile ring masquerading as a religion. The fundamentalist church of … Continue reading

November 25, 2011 · 10 Comments

‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse


I did end up writing a song,. about the hypocrisy of my mother expecting me to celebrate mother’s day, to give her her motherly due, when she was an accessory … Continue reading

August 6, 2011 · 7 Comments

Dear teachers (who saved my life)


Dear Teachers, I know some of you remember me. I was gifted and quiet, well behaved, used big words solemnly, like the bookworm I was and still am. When I … Continue reading

June 14, 2011 · 10 Comments

Primer for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors


Unlike my other posts, this isn’t written for survivors, but for their partners. Okay, I lied, it’s really written for survivors to give to their partners, and has both answers … Continue reading

March 13, 2011 · 59 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse and forgiveness.


Here’s what I have learned in 25 years of healing,  about the topic of forgiveness as relates to survivors of childhood sexual assault by a family member or other sexual … Continue reading

January 21, 2011 · 32 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse survivors and sex and relationships


Here’s a post from a place where I don’t feel like I’ve gotten a handle on all of the post-traumatic symptoms, although I have come a long way. Stages of … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 15 Comments

Car Crash – or what PTSD is like – novel


[Note: Since I first wrote this, this piece has gotten a lot of attention for being a really good way to explain to people in your life what it’s like … Continue reading

November 7, 2010 · 33 Comments

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