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Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse

I did end up writing a song,. about the hypocrisy of my mother expecting me to celebrate mother’s day, to give her her motherly due, when she was an accessory after the fact to me being raped and seriously wounded as a child by my father and then lied to me about it. The recording was intended to have a cool bossa feel, where an emotional song is sung with a cool bell-like delivery. It was done on my phone, with the soundcloud  app, so it isn’t perfect but you get the feel.

Maravilhosa Ipanema - Gold Istant

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Here are the lyrics:

Mothers day
Mother stay
Mother, hey won’t you help me
Father’s night

There’s no way
to escape
blood ‘relations’
without a fight

Somethings are too much
to explain
like the pain
tearing your body apart
or the eyes that don’t see
look at me, mother
first right, of kings.**

Mother’s day
now you say
‘didn’t see it’
in the night
hitting hard
ripping open a child
giving scars from one side to the other
the eyes that don’t see
look at me, mother
first rite

Mother’s day
what you say is a lie
there’s no way
I will play
this game on
Mother’s day.

[**this is a reference to the feudal practice where the king had the right to rape any bride in his territory on her wedding night, who was presumed to be a virgin prior to that.]


7 comments on “‘Mother’s day’ song for mother complicit in child abuse

  1. Janey
    August 6, 2011

    You have a great voice. Mother’s complicity is such a painful dichotomy. Thanx Janey

  2. kate1975
    August 6, 2011

    It gave me chills. Excellent. Good and healing thoughts to you.


  3. gardendog
    August 8, 2011

    I feel your pain. Being abused by one parent and then the other in this way is something no child should ever experience. I trust you are in a much better mind space now.

  4. butterflysblog
    August 9, 2011

    You have an absolutely beautiful voice. Would love to hear more!!!
    – Butterfly

  5. Nop
    November 27, 2011

    SDW, I read this excellent article about the Syracuse child-abuse, & immediately thought of you.
    The writer does a great job of analyzing & calling out the ‘innocent’ people who, through inaction, were complicit in the abuse.
    (My apologies for posting the link here, but I don’t know of any other of getting it to you & this post seemed the most appropriate place.)

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