May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

What I learned about faith and child sexual abuse

My adult spirituality developed in first or second year university. I was taking a philosophy of religion course, up to my neck in flashbacks and attending 12 step meetings of … Continue reading

January 30, 2011 · 4 Comments

Healthy, Safe, Loved, Connected

My good friend whose husband threatened to kill her a little over a year ago, got her divorce finalized yesterday. Butthead has been dragging it out and they’ve been spending … Continue reading

January 29, 2011 · 1 Comment

Gifts of Kindness II: teacher sends care package of lost memories to incest survivor former student

I got the package from my grade 6 teacher today. She sent me a beautiful letter, a collage of pictures of me and my classmates in a frame, and some … Continue reading

January 27, 2011 · 4 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse and forgiveness.

Here’s what I have learned in 25 years of healing,  about the topic of forgiveness as relates to survivors of childhood sexual assault by a family member or other sexual … Continue reading

January 21, 2011 · 32 Comments

What I learned about anxiety – for child sexual abuse survivors

Feel whatever is there in a safe place The first time I remember not being anxious was after a 12 step meeting. My shoulders were relaxed. This had never happened … Continue reading

January 19, 2011 · 11 Comments

What I’ve learned about happiness

I am a student of happiness right now. It started when I realized that I wasn’t actually happy. Nothing bad going on particularly, but not happy. That has changed. Then … Continue reading

January 13, 2011 · 4 Comments

What I learned about child sexual abuse survivors and sex and relationships

Here’s a post from a place where I don’t feel like I’ve gotten a handle on all of the post-traumatic symptoms, although I have come a long way. Stages of … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 15 Comments

Gifts of Kindness – A Teacher Gives Survivor a Piece of Her Past

I ran into one of my elementary school teachers at a conference I was presenting at, and we reconnected. In a follow up email I fairly matter of factly told … Continue reading

January 11, 2011 · 2 Comments

What I learned about health care and sexual abuse survivors

I’d like to summarize what resources and history I’ve gathered (or created) that might be helpful to other survivors. I went from someone who had an 8 year gap in … Continue reading

January 8, 2011 · 4 Comments

What I learned about night fears and sexual abuse survivors

In this post, I wanted to share what I’ve learned about night fears resulting from sexual assaults as a child and how to reduce them. I started out with night … Continue reading

January 2, 2011 · 20 Comments

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