May We Dance Upon Their Graves

Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.

Meditation on Father’s Day from an incest survivor


I wrote several poems today after a meditation walk I do to clear my head. Here are two of them: 3.  Father’s day Sobs shake me in the silence of … Continue reading

June 15, 2014 · 3 Comments

Reframing mother’s day for incest survivors


I am going to celebrate Mother’s day tomorrow, in honour of my inner mother – the part of myself that nurtures and cares for all of me, and in honour … Continue reading

May 10, 2014 · 1 Comment

The colour purple


Last night my partner decided to watch the Color Purple, a screen adaptation of a book by Alice Walker. This is the 1985 epic movie that made the acting careers … Continue reading

March 23, 2014 · 6 Comments

Benefits of being a sexual abuse survivor…


I’ve been feeling disheartened lately. I’ve been practicing tantric yoni massage (no endorsement implied in the link, but the description seems about right, and it even mentions survivors), both on my … Continue reading

March 4, 2014 · 3 Comments

Vulva – Healing the Physical Effects of Childhood Sexual Assault – Physical Self Care


This post is chock full of triggers. No descriptions of actual abuse, but lots about injured vaginas and what works to make them feel better.  A little bit of religious … Continue reading

February 27, 2014 · 3 Comments

Help for Partners of Childhood Sexual Assault Survivors


I had a comment just now asking for resources for partners. I am a survivor and have been involved with women who are survivors. I think that most of this … Continue reading

February 27, 2014 · 5 Comments

Coming out as a survivor part 3 – Intimate Relationships with Bystanders and Civilians


The story I wrote about in my last post, where I’d come out to a potential lover as having an injured vagina and she’d reacted in an odd way, has … Continue reading

February 20, 2014 · Leave a comment

Coming Out as a Survivor Part 2 – Friends and Lovers


In my previous post on this topic, I covered coming out to yourself, your therapist and your support or therapy community. The final two really difficult steps are coming out … Continue reading

February 10, 2014 · 1 Comment

New Year Resolution


So last Saturday I saw my ex girlfriend (Kitten) and her new girlfriend at the bar. It was no big deal. For those who don’t know the back story, she … Continue reading

January 21, 2014 · Leave a comment

What I’ve learned about coming out as an incest survivor (part 1)


I’m trying to write a chapter on coming out as an incest or child sexual assault survivor for the book. There are a lot of reasons to come out, and … Continue reading

January 7, 2014 · 7 Comments

New Year – Releasing, Banishing and Blessing


Yesterday I did a ritual of blessing and letting go with one of my friends. We both practice the same religion but hadn’t done any ceremony together before. It was … Continue reading

December 31, 2013 · 2 Comments

Holidays for Incest Survivors


Tonight is Christmas Eve. I am grateful to be spending it with my spouse and  my dog, in a warm, safe house full of light and love. I am happy. … Continue reading

December 24, 2013 · 8 Comments

Dating your parents (no not literally, thankfully!)


I subscribe to the theory that what we are attracted to in a mate is often a reflection of both the ways we’ve learned to accept love as children and … Continue reading

October 21, 2013 · 6 Comments

My book – It Gets Better: What I learned from 20 years of healing childhood rape


So here it is, my book draft. The working title is “It Gets Better: What I learned from 20 years of healing childhood rape” I was sharing it as a … Continue reading

July 31, 2013 · 10 Comments

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