May We Dance Upon Their Graves
Incest Survivors, Spirituality and Ceremonies of Justice – the story of a woman living a rich, fulfilling life while waiting to dance on her sociopath father's grave.
The painless vulva miracle
What a miracle this steroid cream is! I put it on and within an hour, I feel something I’ve never felt before. The pain, of burning and heat is replaced … Continue reading
Treatment and healing – chronic vulva inflammatory condition
So I had my follow up visit with the gyne specialist last Friday. Here’s the skinny. I do not have planus lichen (SO glad I went ahead with the biopsy!) … Continue reading
Autoimmune Disorders and PTSD
So this thing that makes my vulva and vagina feel like it has a bad sunburn (sometimes a healing itchy one, sometimes a fresh hot painful one) is an autoimmune … Continue reading
What not to say to survivors of childhood sexual assault…
Do you have a friend, relative or lover who survived childhood sexual assault? Here’s 6 of the top 10 things not to say or do. 1) Breaking the kvetching order … Continue reading
Awesome Sexuality after surviving the worst
I remember despairing of ever having a decent sex life, of ever actually wanting sex, of finding people who wanted me and would be good to me, with whom I … Continue reading
Better, stronger, faster than before.
First off, the specialist did not help me assess the damage from the assault. I was disappointed. However, she did have a very credible theory for what could be causing … Continue reading
Courage, Perseverence, Gratitude
Here’s an excerpt from the typed page I’m giving to the Ob/Gyn specialist later this morning: “What I am here for: 1) My goal is to improve my ability to … Continue reading
Care and feeding of the unconscious
If you believe in astrology, I can sum up my experience this morning with one phrase: I am a Sagittarius with a moon in Scorpio. This means that my inside … Continue reading
Rules of kvetching: applied to CSA survivors
My neck has been particularly seized up since I found out about the appointment with the gynecologist. Coincidence? Not likely. Since the assault that caused the tearing in my vagina … Continue reading
I have an appointment!
I just found out I have an appointment with a woman obstetrician/gynecologist for May 10th. The doctor who set up the appointment for me thought that an obstetrician might be … Continue reading
Information for childhood sexual assault survivors with vaginal/vulvar injuries
Note: This is probably triggering.It’s medical studies talking about vulva injuries in kids and how they heal. Read at your own risk. Here is a nice picture of a bunny … Continue reading
How to get care for an vulva injured in childhood.
I am going to blow my own horn here. I did good. First, some background. I had sex for the first time with a new lover recently and my vulva … Continue reading
Bravery and Vulnerability
I’ve been reading Brene Brown’s recent book “Daring Greatly”. Most of the information is stuff I already know, but it’s good to review and there were some new bits. I … Continue reading
Grief, when you least expect it
I went out to ‘Trouble with the curve’ tonight with my wife. This story of a relationship between a father and daughter and it’s impact on her life really touched … Continue reading
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